About 5 years ago, I had a "come to Jesus," you know what I mean. This occurs when we wake up and confront the issues and obstacles plaguing us from enjoying our lives. I was in a corporate job that I no longer had a desire to do. I was unhappy, overweight. I was in turmoil. But I did something unconsciously. If I had of thought about it, I wouldn't have done it because doing it would have removed the excuses that I had been using as to why I was where I was - sound familiar?
How many of you use excuses as an escape mechanism from facing the issues of your heart? It's just easier to pretend as if they don't exist...
I attended a life changing conference. I mean everything changed. It was cataclysmic, it was as if every single speaker was there for one reason - to facilitate my breakthrough. You see, I had been broken down. I was lonely, I hated my job, I felt like no one cared about me. Truthfully, it was all in my head. Just like it is in yours if you have had these feelings. As a dear friend says, when are you going to get out of your head and into your heart?!
I want you to know that a breakdown can and will become a breakthrough when you make a non-negotiable decision that enough is enough and decide to do something differently.
Non-negotiable.
For me, the first step was attending the conference. How many of you know that if you want to change your situation, you have to change your position. That's right MOVE. Do something different, something you've never done. While I was there, I was forced with looking at myself in the mirror - the proccess I now use with each client that I coach, which I have aptly called "Inspect the Incredible." Sadly, what looked back at me was not cute in the least but what's more, it wasn't authentic. So busy trying to be everything to everybody, I lost myself and I realized that I was not living an authentic life. I was not living from my heart.
Once you know better, you are expected to do better, so I immediately began to make clear and calculated changes to my life. Oddly enough the first step was realizing that I was born Darnyelle for a reason and on purpose. I had to stop trying to be like everyone else so that I could fit in. That revelation - Life Changing. And that revelation led to another and another and another and finally to the commitment to help other women get to the same place where I now reside - Peace, Joy and True, Authentic happiness right now. Not later when my change, or the man or the money comes but NOW.
As a result of that conference I began to seek assistance in changing my life. I found a life coach. I made a commitment to becoming the best me. 5 years later, I am living from my heart and teaching others to do the same. It was a challenging process and yet it has been worth it. And no, it didn't take me 5 years to do it! The bible says 'Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks." I operate fully from a space of love, personal power and conviction to greet each day ready to make a difference in the lives of others.
Now that I've told you my business (smile), I have a question for you: Where do you live? Are you suffering or struggling with lack, low self-esteem, worry, turmoil, strife or worse? When was the last time you smelled the aroma of your heart - your attitude? If you've smelled it, and a pleasant fragrance hasn't greeted your nostrils, are you yet ready to make a change?
If nothing changes, nothing changes. But your address will change when you commit to yourself, do the work necessary to get a new address and live from your heart.
In my own words....
I am a professional speaker, certified life coach, award-winning author and consultant. I work exclusively with women who struggle with identifying their PACE - Purposeful Passion, Attitude of Abundance, Consistent Confidence and Enthusiastic Expectation. My clients desire to experience significant personal & professional growth by eliminating excuses, facilitating change and overcoming adversity in their life and business. I am more than motivation, I impart skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in you. For more information, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Can't You Find It?
When your focus is on what's missing in your life, do you ever stopped to wander why in the world you can't find it?
I remember one time that I couldn't find the keys to my car. I mean I tore my home apart looking for those keys. I kept retracing my steps and trying to remember where I'd seen them last but I just couldn't find them. Late for a meeting, I finally conceded and grabbed my spare set to get out the door. As I drove to the meeting, my mind was preoccupied with my missing keys. I could barely focus on the drive and relaxing myself before the meeting because I was so wound up over those missing keys. Even once the meeting was over, immediately, my mind raced back to my missing keys and where I would look when I finally got back home. Needless to say, I did not find my keys that day or the next. It wasn't until I changed my focus and stopped operating from a place of confusion, frustration and lack that they appeared out of no where. Ever happened to you?
Why does that happen????!!!!
I believe it's because what ever you focus upon gets bigger - lack of money, relationship, health, in my case missing keys, etc - they all tend to stand out a little more when we focus on those things. For those who constantly say, "I'm broke," or "I can't find a good man," or better still my favorite 'I can't seem to get any peace," let me enlighten you: until your focus (mindset) switches from what you don't have or can't find, you will not welcome it into your experience. If we instead begin to focus on what we do have and take a stance of gratitude for what we currently have in our lives, we allow ourselves to open to the possiblity of welcoming into our lives what we really want.
It may sound crazy but it's true. Take relationships as an example, everyone knows that when you stop looking for Mr. Right or Ms. Perfect, they appear out of thin air...is it coincidence, NO!
Do you have a desire for living a life filled with passion, abundance, confidence and expectation...but somehow you can't find what it would take to make it a reality? It is my desire to unveil proven techniques to experience a life filled with each of these and more in my upcoming TeleSeminar Find Your PACE.
Sometimes you just have to change your vantage point to see that what you wanted and needed was there all the time.
For more information about the upcoming TeleSeminar, Find Your PACE, please visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com/find_your_pace
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a speaker, coach and author committed to transforming the lives of women through empowerment. More than a motivator, she imparts skills, strategies and solutions that enhances the lives of her clients. Her company, Incredible One Enterprises is a full service empowerment firm in Newark, DE.
I remember one time that I couldn't find the keys to my car. I mean I tore my home apart looking for those keys. I kept retracing my steps and trying to remember where I'd seen them last but I just couldn't find them. Late for a meeting, I finally conceded and grabbed my spare set to get out the door. As I drove to the meeting, my mind was preoccupied with my missing keys. I could barely focus on the drive and relaxing myself before the meeting because I was so wound up over those missing keys. Even once the meeting was over, immediately, my mind raced back to my missing keys and where I would look when I finally got back home. Needless to say, I did not find my keys that day or the next. It wasn't until I changed my focus and stopped operating from a place of confusion, frustration and lack that they appeared out of no where. Ever happened to you?
Why does that happen????!!!!
I believe it's because what ever you focus upon gets bigger - lack of money, relationship, health, in my case missing keys, etc - they all tend to stand out a little more when we focus on those things. For those who constantly say, "I'm broke," or "I can't find a good man," or better still my favorite 'I can't seem to get any peace," let me enlighten you: until your focus (mindset) switches from what you don't have or can't find, you will not welcome it into your experience. If we instead begin to focus on what we do have and take a stance of gratitude for what we currently have in our lives, we allow ourselves to open to the possiblity of welcoming into our lives what we really want.
It may sound crazy but it's true. Take relationships as an example, everyone knows that when you stop looking for Mr. Right or Ms. Perfect, they appear out of thin air...is it coincidence, NO!
Do you have a desire for living a life filled with passion, abundance, confidence and expectation...but somehow you can't find what it would take to make it a reality? It is my desire to unveil proven techniques to experience a life filled with each of these and more in my upcoming TeleSeminar Find Your PACE.
Sometimes you just have to change your vantage point to see that what you wanted and needed was there all the time.
For more information about the upcoming TeleSeminar, Find Your PACE, please visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com/find_your_pace
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a speaker, coach and author committed to transforming the lives of women through empowerment. More than a motivator, she imparts skills, strategies and solutions that enhances the lives of her clients. Her company, Incredible One Enterprises is a full service empowerment firm in Newark, DE.
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Do you see what I see?
Although this song makes me think quickly about the Christmas favorite, it also helps to bring home the point I want to empower you with on this Walk it Out Wednesday.
"Until you can see with clarity and in living color the fulfilment of your dream, it will not begin to manifest in your life." Darnyelle A. Jervey
Vision is so important, it is so important in fact that the Bible in Proverbs says "without vision, the people will perish." When empowering people I talk a lot about walking based on what you believe and not what you see...I know this sounds contradictory based on the thought of "vision", but vision is an encapsulation of an intensely held belief transformed into a picture that tells the story of what one is expecting in their life. (Darnyelle's definition)
As I begin each day, it is the vision (what I believe) that solidifies in my heart the work I must do the manifest my dreams.
So let me encourage you this Walk it Out Wednesday to begin to see the vision you have for your life. 20 days into a new year and a new decade, this is the time to transform your life and move from mediocre to magnificent. With a few strategic steps, you can begin to encounter unexplained favor in your life, like that I've encountered since I started my company in 2007.
When you look over the goals you set for yourself this year...do you see what I see?
When you look at yourself in the mirror...do you see what I see?
When you are daydreaming at work...do you see what I see?
Here's what I see:
~Men and women who can do anything to which they put their mind.
~People using their favor and influence on behalf of YOUR vision.
~Words and actions of power that match the vision that you have for your life.
~People are ready to make significant change and experience a quantum leap in their life in business.
~People in full expectation that the vision in their heart will manifest with hard work, honesty and integrity.
If for some reason you do not see what I see, here's a few tips that may help you:
1. Get clear - clarity for the vision that you have will only come when you get in touch with your spirit in a quiet place without distractions and begin to visualize what it is you really want for your life.
2. FOCUS - there are a lot of distractions and people (the peanut gallery) that wants to interject their thoughts into your vision. Put on blinders and look not to the left or right but FOCUS on YOUR vision.
3. Write it down - a vision in your head is not nearly as powerful as a vision on paper. We know that what gets attended to gets done....writing it down shows a commitment to the vision and that helps to solidify the non-negotiable decision to work everyday in honor of the fulfilment of the vision.
When you see what I see, you will see yourself achieving your goals and manifesting your vision. Let's get eye to eye and connect.
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a speaker, coach, author and consultant who is committed not only to inspiring, but also to offering skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in you. For more information, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com
"Until you can see with clarity and in living color the fulfilment of your dream, it will not begin to manifest in your life." Darnyelle A. Jervey
Vision is so important, it is so important in fact that the Bible in Proverbs says "without vision, the people will perish." When empowering people I talk a lot about walking based on what you believe and not what you see...I know this sounds contradictory based on the thought of "vision", but vision is an encapsulation of an intensely held belief transformed into a picture that tells the story of what one is expecting in their life. (Darnyelle's definition)
As I begin each day, it is the vision (what I believe) that solidifies in my heart the work I must do the manifest my dreams.
So let me encourage you this Walk it Out Wednesday to begin to see the vision you have for your life. 20 days into a new year and a new decade, this is the time to transform your life and move from mediocre to magnificent. With a few strategic steps, you can begin to encounter unexplained favor in your life, like that I've encountered since I started my company in 2007.
When you look over the goals you set for yourself this year...do you see what I see?
When you look at yourself in the mirror...do you see what I see?
When you are daydreaming at work...do you see what I see?
Here's what I see:
~Men and women who can do anything to which they put their mind.
~People using their favor and influence on behalf of YOUR vision.
~Words and actions of power that match the vision that you have for your life.
~People are ready to make significant change and experience a quantum leap in their life in business.
~People in full expectation that the vision in their heart will manifest with hard work, honesty and integrity.
If for some reason you do not see what I see, here's a few tips that may help you:
1. Get clear - clarity for the vision that you have will only come when you get in touch with your spirit in a quiet place without distractions and begin to visualize what it is you really want for your life.
2. FOCUS - there are a lot of distractions and people (the peanut gallery) that wants to interject their thoughts into your vision. Put on blinders and look not to the left or right but FOCUS on YOUR vision.
3. Write it down - a vision in your head is not nearly as powerful as a vision on paper. We know that what gets attended to gets done....writing it down shows a commitment to the vision and that helps to solidify the non-negotiable decision to work everyday in honor of the fulfilment of the vision.
When you see what I see, you will see yourself achieving your goals and manifesting your vision. Let's get eye to eye and connect.
Be Incredible,
Darnyelle
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a speaker, coach, author and consultant who is committed not only to inspiring, but also to offering skills, strategies and solutions to define and unleash the Incredible in you. For more information, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com
Wednesday, January 13, 2010
You are Closer Than You Think
As of Jan 13th, many have already had a setback in the new year. Many have given up and referred back to their old ways. Sure, some of you reading this are saying, "how can that be, it's only been 13 days?" But when you feel like everything around you is coming crashing down as a result of one word or act of discouragement, everything can change in an instant.
My purpose this morning is to edify you. I want to help you to see that you are closer than you think. I happen to subscribe to the belief that it is when you are close to the victory that all hell breaks loose. I believe that when you find yourself dangling between the good times and the bad times, you are on the verge of unleashing the Incredible into your life.
Mary Kay Ashe says, "You can never give up because you never know what meets you when you turn the next corner." And I agree with Mary Kay. I can recall a time in my life when I felt as if the air had been let out of my proverbial tires. I was at my wits end and I was ready to curl up and die. With the help of my mentor and coach, I centered myself, got to a quiet place and I began to remember why I was in the race in the first place. Disappointments and failures are a part of the process. Just ask anyone who has ever achieved anything, but they have tenacity and they didn't give up so that they could achieve their goal and heart's desire.
Oftentimes when it gets noisy, we can't hear our spirits talking to us and we fail to change our position to be able to hear again. If I am speaking to you today, change your position so that you can get clear. Remember, it is not over until you have the victory and you are closer than you think.
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a certified life coach, professional speaker, author and consultant committed to the empowerment of women through her company Incredible One Enterprises. For more information or to request your FREE coaching consultation, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com.
My purpose this morning is to edify you. I want to help you to see that you are closer than you think. I happen to subscribe to the belief that it is when you are close to the victory that all hell breaks loose. I believe that when you find yourself dangling between the good times and the bad times, you are on the verge of unleashing the Incredible into your life.
Mary Kay Ashe says, "You can never give up because you never know what meets you when you turn the next corner." And I agree with Mary Kay. I can recall a time in my life when I felt as if the air had been let out of my proverbial tires. I was at my wits end and I was ready to curl up and die. With the help of my mentor and coach, I centered myself, got to a quiet place and I began to remember why I was in the race in the first place. Disappointments and failures are a part of the process. Just ask anyone who has ever achieved anything, but they have tenacity and they didn't give up so that they could achieve their goal and heart's desire.
Oftentimes when it gets noisy, we can't hear our spirits talking to us and we fail to change our position to be able to hear again. If I am speaking to you today, change your position so that you can get clear. Remember, it is not over until you have the victory and you are closer than you think.
Darnyelle A. Jervey is a certified life coach, professional speaker, author and consultant committed to the empowerment of women through her company Incredible One Enterprises. For more information or to request your FREE coaching consultation, visit http://www.incredibleoneenterprises.com.
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